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Should You Always Sing When People Ask You To?

Updated: Jul 21, 2021

A few days ago I was asked to sing on a Zoom call while we were waiting for a technical issue to resolve. It was a half joke but it happens quite a lot and it sparked a conversation that I have every few months.

At first I sang something silly. I didn't feel like singing. Understandably, a well-meaning friend later commented that I should always be ready to sing. This is something I've heard may times in over twenty years as a singer. And if I'm honest, I've heard many more non-singers say it than singers.

Eventually I did sing and a few people were entertained. But I didn't really enjoy it, and this is why:

1: I was on the call to learn. My brain was empty

of everything else, as I have trained it to be when I’m learning. I wasn’t ready to sing, because I was ready to learn.

2: I wasn’t warmed up. Everyone knows that you should warm up before you sing! It meant that, even though it was a little impromptu piece and just for fun, it wasn’t a good representation of me as a singer.

3: I actually just didn’t want to sing at that time. I’m not looking for work as a singer and I wasn’t trying to recruit anyone on the call as a client, so the "always be ready" so-called rule didn't apply.

As a singer you're going to be called upon to sing at any moment. For some, it's a great feeling; for others, it's not always appropriate.

If you don’t feel like singing, you don’t feel like singing. You are not a performing chimp. You’re not obliged to perform just because someone demands that you do - especially if the people asking aren’t prepared to come to a paid gig.

Set your boundaries and the people who are really interested in hearing you sing will respect them; the ones who don’t, won’t. You can't please everyone all of the time.

And that’s ok. ❤️

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sara. sh
sara. sh

It’s actually true, I get asked that as well but sometimes it can feel uncomfortable as you’re not ready. I personally try to think it more as having fun and not judging myself a lot cause our voice will sound good it’s just I think we aren’t able to show everything that our voice can do and that’s okay, more for them to ask on to listen to us on how far we can go and do, that’s one way of thinking it.

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